What I’m suggesting to you is not to avoid getting romantically involved with a person whom you sincerely love but a way to augment your thinking about how that relationship should proceed so that you can take advantage of an opportunity you are being given to change your life for the better, raise your consciousness and evolve as a human being is meant to.

 

Yes, did you know that there’s more going on when your heart flutters or you “see fireworks” or whatever happens when you get bit with the love bug, than you thought? And for those of you who have up until now been disgruntled by the fact that, “Oh it was just a fling” or even more serious, “Whoa, my wife and I have been married for a couple of months now and something changed between us. We had our first argument and I guess we got over that but I don’t feel the way I did about her anymore. Is that it? Where’s the magic. What’s going on?”

 

What’s going on is that everything is going to be all right. Really, as long as you listen carefully to everything I’m about to say and do what I tell you to do.

 

You didn’t think this was going to be a course of Relationships 101, did you? Well I didn’t intend on putting it this way but there’s so many people who just don’t get this and it’s so weird but yet then again it does take a discerning person of wisdom and lots of experience to make this clear to people.

 

When you fall in love with someone what is actually going on is that you are projecting your desire to embrace that inner spiritual being within you onto the person you think is the object of your love. So, why doesn’t it happen at other times when you’re not with someone you’ve fallen madly in love with? Well, it does but usually only when you are pursuing a disciplined spiritual life. Actually from my experience, all that it takes is for you to consistently spend some time—it could be ten or fifteen minutes a day—in meditation. You could do it longer if you have the time which will shorten the time it takes for you to turn off that noise in your head, quiet your mind and go into yourself. For most people it would help to take a few classes on meditation. But really what it’s all about is just finding a place where it is quiet so that you can be alone and get relaxed, I mean really relaxed so that you can do this.

 

Over time you will eventually meet your higher self, your soul, that being within you, that light which God placed in you so that you would always find your way back to Him or Her. You have always been connected with God; that has never changed. What has changed is that you allow your ego to think it is protecting you from such nonsense because you are an independent, self-made man or woman and your individualism gives you such pride and confidence. Regardless of how virtuous that may seem to you, ultimately this ideal of who you think a successful person ought to be is not going to lead you anywhere near the goal of the next step in human evolution which is where we all want to be someday. But when you get to the point where you meet your higher self or what is often referred to as the I Am Presence, it is indescribable, wonderful and it is you. It’s better than the feeling you get when you’re falling in love because when you fall in love you’re projecting your desire to embrace your God-self on another person. And when the two of you say goodbye for the night then there is a longing for him or her and the hours can’t go by quick enough before you get together for another date. Your life is turned upside down because you’re infatuated with this person. Do you really want to put yourself through that again and again? 

 

Yea, you say you don’t but you’re going to do it anyway, right? You have an affair with this guy or that woman and it doesn’t last, right? But a month later after you’ve told yourself that you’ll never put yourself through this crap ever again someone comes along and you get bit with the love bug and there you go again projecting that precious light within you off on someone else. Again, giving your power away to someone that you think is going to make you happy, or that infatuation with that  asinine idea of a knight in shining armor to come and make your life all better will not work. Why are you falling for this? You need to start saving yourself from all of this needless grief and think about what you always seem to be getting yourself into.

 

So there’s two ways you can approach this. Either you go cold turkey into a simple regiment of daily meditation so that you can quiet your mind and in time discover your God-self or you can do it within the context of a romantic relationship. And if you’ve just about had it with getting into bad relationships, I understand, so you’re better off going the meditation route. Eventually you should get into a daily practice of meditation anyway but what I suggest to most of you is to take a very clever approach to your romantic encounters and by all means allow yourself to fall in love with a very special person. Just let it happen because you need to experience the full brunt of those emotions and feelings. Let it come and don’t hold anything back. But then after the first night the two of you have your first date then come home and start the real work.

 

By then you’ll be feeling really good. You’re going to be on top of the world, right. That’s where you want to be with your feelings. Okay but ask yourself just why you feel really good. Is it because you just met this really cute guy or girl. No it’s not. You may think that is why you feel the way you do but you don’t.

 

 

Find a comfortable place in your home and while either sitting down with your shoes off or sitting cross-legged on the floor, begin breathing through your nose and out through your mouth. This will calm you down. You need to center yourself now. You’ve acknowledged your I Am Presence but now you have to center yourself there. As you breath in and out imagine on your in breath all of your energy coming together in an area just above the top your breastbone. This is the seat of your soul where your I Am Presence is. Then on your out breath let that energy travel down your spine through your anus into the Earth. This will ground you and connect you with Earth so that you can receive all of the vitality elements that She has to give to you.

 

But make sure you are still feeling those romantic feelings. They’re very powerful and you are not denying any of it but what you want to do is to acknowledge the indisputable origin of this feeling. This energy is your I AM Presence. Because, what you ultimately want to do is to first feel in love with and be one with your I Am Presence, your God-self. And the more you do this the more of a consistent relationship you will forge with that precious and powerful light within you.

 

On page 422 in Chapter 26 of  “Tamara’s Journey: The Purging Of A Tyrant” Michiko meets her higher self for the first time. For some time now in the story she has come to realize that when she assumes her identity as the superheroine, Sukahara, so that she can fight crime or save people in trouble, she comes face to face with the past life that she lived as Emperor Kantagawa, a ruthless, power-hungry monarch. That’s who she was when she ruled over the people of Japan 500 years ago with an iron fist because without him everything would fall apart. That was a myth but she has come back again in this life to atone for that error by having these powers bestowed upon her. The persona with whom she abused her power over so many has become utterly abhorrent to her and now she finds herself locked in this battle with her ego. She knows that when duty calls and people are in peril she has to respond and save them as Sukahara but it causes her so much pain because that reminds her so well about how she used her power in much the same way when she was emperor of Japan. But now she realizes the folly of her actions and rather than act to intervene in people’s lives with her super physical powers she instead reaches deep down within her heart where she will find the only real power she has ever had and which will ever had any real meaning for her.

 

And that’s what you will find. Don’t you see how pointless it has been to give your power away to another and project your desire to embrace the most precious aspect of yourself on the one you love rather than loving them unconditionally, without any strings attached? Again, I’m not saying that you should not get involved in romantic relationships. But don’t fritter away your power. Keep your power and realize when that magic moment occurs as you fall in love with someone very special, you are connecting with your soul, your God-self. And so, continue going on dates with that person. But get to know them, ask them questions. Find out all about them and while you’re getting to know that person make sure that you are also spending as much if not more time with your higher self. Then when you’ve had enough practice in your meditation I know that you will meet that higher self. Perhaps your higher self has a name, a special name. That’s really cool when you find out what your higher self’s name is because that’s your soul name. That’s who you are, your identity when your not in a physical body. Eventually you’re going to either ascend when the time comes or die. Death is not a natural thing but until you resolve your karma and get off your cycle of incarnations that you’re on you’re going to have to accept the fact that death is a necessary yet unfortunate reality. And then when that moment happens you just, whoosh, slip right on out of that physical shell you’re in and return to Spirit World as the soul who you really are.

 

So, try to take what I said to heart. You no longer need to think the same way about your romantic relationships as you did before. Why bother? What good has it gotten you? Why not see romantic relationships as a spiritual exercise so that you can explore within yourself and discover who you are. Isn’t this cool?

 

Who would have thought that you could be religious while involved in a romantic relationship? I know for damn sure that your priest or pastor isn’t going to tell you this because, like, especially if they’re Catholic that’s something that they can’t do to begin with. Too bad for them. But now you can approach your relationship with that man or woman from an entirely different context and with an entirely different attitude as well.

 

When I get done talking about this you’re not only going to understand how to get to know your higher self better but the by-product of that will be that you’ve learned about true love. And when you express true love to your boyfriend, girlfriend or your partner that’s going to be one hell of a turn on for them. So you’ll be on the way toward your own conscious evolution and you’ll be a really great lover as well.